Much of the material that makes us live the way we do, is hidden from us. The way our personality is created is a little bit more complicated, but the basic truth is that our lives are driven by unconscious forces formed by factors like our childhood, the society and environment we are part of, and exceptional situations which occur in our days.

Already Sigmund Freud was not afraid to make the conclusion that not only people live their lives which are unconscious but also that our suffering arises out of the degree to which we are unconscious. Where does the suffering comes from is rather straightforward and has to do with early childhood experiences.

When growing up, we are being programmed in a certain way and out of that programming we live our lives. However, the programming just happens while we are not aware of it, and therefore later in life we do things for reasons that we don’t know, and we’re compelled to keep repeating our patterns, because those patterns are what helped us to survive in the first place and thus, we’re afraid to give them up.

Although now not only they no longer serve their function, but they create suffering instead of protecting us. When we were children, we sometimes came across such situations and treatments that we had to learn that reality is difficult and painful. There were moments when we were afraid of the reality, and we would do anything to escape it.

How does it all affect you now? Sometimes you can get confused, foggy, befuddled and triggered. But what is really happening is that your own reality is knocking at your door saying: “Hey man, there is something there you haven’t realised!” And you, instead of being curious about it and exploring it, say: “I am triggered”, and you blame it all on the person that triggered you or on the situation you appeared in.

But what does it really mean being triggered? If you look at a weapon, the trigger is a very small part of the whole mechanism, right? At the same time there is the weapon being loaded with explosives ready to fire. If there was no explosive in it, the weapon would not explode. So shall we rather keep complaining about the triggers as tiny little things that we can not even influence. Or should we look at the loaded gun and the ammunition that we all carry, and we are so afraid to actually look at?